The other morning I awoke to my husbands frustrated voice because he couldn’t find the lint roller and our dearest cat had nested on his clean work shirt. It happens. Normally my sweetie gets up, gets ready for work, and gives me a kiss before heading out the door. He never natters at me to be up but grants me the opportunity for a bit more sleep before my day begins. The thing is, and this next part is a bit of a secret because I have a reputation to uphold as ‘not a morning person’, I rather like being up a bit earlier. It gives me that time when the house is quiet and there is no pressure to be busy at a task.
These early mornings are an excellent time for me to dive into reestablishing a personal quiet time. Of course that will require me to create the habit of rising earlier everyday. Hmmm, need to think on that one. After my last letter to you I wanted to share that breaking out of our ruts and making new paths is possible. Even for older dolls like me. There is a habit I have been successful at establishing this past year, praying for my husband. We have been married for twenty-two years and it’s not like this past year has been the first time I prayed for him. We were praying for each other before we were married. But something changed over the past year in how I pray for him.
I can’t say it’s that I now pray specifically because I did that. Prayers for meetings, conversations, exhaustion, strength in certain situations, courage in others. I still bring daily needs and circumstances to God for my husband. What has changed is that now I bring very definitive aspects of his life to God in prayer. Last year I finally got around to reading The Power of The Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. It had been on my shelf waiting to be picked up for a long time. I am sorry I didn’t read it sooner. Her straight forward manner in discussing different areas in which we need to be praying for our spouses is backed by biblical references. It was a great read.
As I read her book God showed me that all this time my prayers for my spouse were mostly reactive. I prayed concerning the circumstances we were currently in and the character needs they represented at the time. While I had always prayed that my husband would be a Godly man who centred his life around Christ, prayers for other things like boldness, integrity, health, etc were always dictated by situation. All the sudden it clicked in my head, I could actually go on the offensive. Mind blown!
It was an epiphany, the way I had looked at praying for my husband completely changed in that moment. I still pray for daily needs but most of my time is spent in a way I had never prayed before. Interestingly enough I have seen changes in my husband that I am sure are God strengthening and growing him as I pray.
Let me be clear this is not a magic bullet to create your own Stepford husband. In fact one of the things I have seen is how God is changing me. Marriage is hard because well, life is hard. Actually that is a whole other letter for another time. But as I pray for Sweetie, I have a clear sense of God working in my life, growing my faith, changing my attitudes. Helping me to clearly see who I am to be as a wife, as a person. That is one of the things I now pray about, that my husbands wife (me) would be less self centred, more gracious and the companion, lover, friend and partner he needs. I know it’s shocking but I am not perfect.
Back to my husband’s frustrated voice, after he left that morning I went to prayer. Obviously he was a little stressed, so I prayed for peace and a calm spirit, along with things I knew were coming during his work day. Often as our partners are going through things that we can’t jump in and fix we feel helpless to help. The one thing a christian spouse can always do is pray. Be encouraged that this is no little thing. I want to share with you one of the areas I pray about. It’s part of my top ten prayer requests for my husband. This post is a bit long and I don’t want to steal too much of your time so I won’t ramble about all ten.
HIS MIND: I pray that God will strengthen and guard his mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” I ask that God would guard him against feelings of depression, defeat, hopelessness, anxiety, etc. I request that he not listen to the voices we all have whispering negative thoughts of “I can’t”, “nothing changes”, “it’s too much”. That God will empower him to be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might (Ephesians 6:10). That he would take those defeatist thoughts and feelings captive and toss them to the curb and instead focusing on positive thoughts. Basically I pray he embraces, Philippians 4:6-8.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”
These are things you can pray for anyone you know and love, it doesn’t have to be a spouse. We all have people in our lives that need someone to come along side them and uphold and intercede for them.
Thanks for listening to me ramble, new habits are exciting and having a fresh flash of insight even more so. If you google ‘how to pray for your husband’ all sorts of fantastic articles will come up. I found one called The 30 Day Prayer Challenge for Your Husband, title aside it looks interesting. I like that they have included scriptures for each day as well. If you are interested I will post each day on the Letters From Our Life Facebook page starting on Monday. Perhaps you are ready to try a new way to pray for your spouse. Perhaps you have never thought about praying for your spouse. Wouldn’t it be interesting to take on this challenge together?
Boy, I am just filled with proactive ideas for our lives this week aren’t I? I wish you a relaxed weekend, may you return to your day to day refreshed.
Your friend and Postmistress,
P.S. I totally slept in this morning.