31 Days: Praying For Your Partner

One of the ways we can support our spouse and strengthen our marriage is through prayer.  We are going to commit to 31 days of praying for our partners.  It doesn’t matter if you are a husband or a wife, this call to prayer is for you.  I took on this challenge after I wrote the blog post  Spousal Support in September 2017.  Actually if you go back and read that you will get #32 of ideas on how to pray specifically for your loved one.  Addressing definitive areas to pray for is a very healthy and productive way to intercede for our partners with God.  Don’t go into this thinking it’s a great way to change your spouse because I can tell you from experience it turns out to be a great way to change yourself.  In praying for my sweetheart I do see God moving in his life but I also see changes in my own heart.  Prayer draws us closer to God and as I come to Him, I also see myself becoming less self centred.  Praying while mediating on the word of God is indeed a powerful thing.  There are scriptures for each day, allow your mind to think on them, claim them, pray them for the one you love. Now the bible tells us that that our God is able to do far more than we could think or ask (Ephesians 3:20) so let’s turn our minds to knowing Him as we approach His throne seeking blessing for our loved ones.

 

Day 1: Pray for their relationship with God

Pray that their relationship with God would have first place above all other relationships. When we put God first everything else has a way of falling into place. Pray that he/she would be filled with desire to know God better or to come to know God if they don’t.

Scriptures for today are:
Luke 10:27 And he (Jesus) answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.”
Psalm 105:4 Seek the Lord and His strength; Seek His face continually.

 

Day 2:  Spiritual Disciplines

Today we pray that our spouses practice spiritual disciplines. That sounds more complex than it is. The disciplines are actions we take that strengthen our relationship with God. Prayer, bible reading, worship, acts of service, etc. Pray that our loved ones are committed to including these things in their lives. Giving our time, focus and energy to these areas grows us and is an act of worship in and of itself.

Todays scriptures are:
Colossians 4:2 Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving.
Psalms 119:10-11 With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.
If you want a couple more check out 2 Timothy 2:15. Titus 3:8 and John 4: 22-23

 

Day 3: Praying for their attitude towards work.
Our work plays a huge part of our lives so it’s necessary to pray about it. Today we focus on attitude towards work, that our loved ones would be positive and find fulfillment in their job. We ask that they would avoid the two extremes. The first being laziness and irresponsibility, avoiding work for various reasons. If this is the case we can ask that God would work a change in their hearts. The second extreme is that of the workaholic, when their work becomes so all encompassing that other areas of their life suffer. This too happens for various reasons, you know your loved ones best and have an idea of what those reasons could be, attack the reasons directly in prayer. Hopefully your partner isn’t sitting on one of the extremes but be encouraged, God can and does change attitudes. We should all pray instead that our spouses would embrace balance in their work place, that they would move forward in an attitude of gratitude for their employment and graciousness to those around them.


Scriptures For Today:
Psalms 90:17 And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, And establish the work of our hands for us; Yes, establish the work of our hands.
Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.

 

Day 4: Prayer for their work.
Yesterday we prayed about attitudes at work, today I would like us to take a quick look at the work and workplace. Pray that God would grant a sense of fulfillment and purpose in the type of work our spouse is doing. That God would increase the satisfaction your husband/wife has in their job. If they are not in a job that God’s has for them, pray that He would open the doors to move them forward. Also pray that God would go before them in the relationships they have in the workplace. That God would have them work with the right people and that the difficult ones would be removed from their path. Although sometimes the difficult people are there as part of God’s purpose, in which case both you and your loved one should pray for that person. Our associations with so many different types of people is a gift. I pray constantly that my Sweetie would be an authentic witness for Christ in how he conducts himself in the workplace and that God would be glorified in all that he does. Pray that their work would be secure, financially rewarding, that the workload would not be overwhelming, that God’s purpose would be fulfilled in this area of their life.


Today’s Scriptures:
Ephesians 6:6 Work hard, but not just to please your masters when they are watching. As slaves of Christ, do the will of God with all your heart.
Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.
Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good in one’s lifetime; 13 moreover, that every man who eats and drinks sees good in all his labor—it is the gift of God.
Proverbs 16:3 Commit your works to the Lord And your plans will be established.

Day 5: Pray for good health and habits that lead to good health.
Today we turn our focus onto health. It seems like everywhere we turn there are people with health issues in need of healing. Possibly your spouse falls into that category or perhaps it’s more a case of witnessing habits or behaviours you know are going to lead to complications sooner than later. Discussing our physical well being and the need for us to make choices that will benefit our bodies can be a touchy subject.It’s something many people would prefer never to speak about, “Leave me alone while I put 7 sugars in my small coffee.” If this is the case with your loved one, taking your concern to the one who is the great physician, the designer of our body is the best route. We can request that God will heal and strengthen their bodies. Grant sleep and rest, while increasing the desire to set new habits of nutrition or activity. Pray that our partners would enjoy a long and healthy life.

Scriptures for today:
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.

Psalms 103:2-3 Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget none of His benefits; who forgives all your iniquities, who heals all your diseases.

Day 6: Pray for his/her role as a parent.
The role of a parent is the most important roles in a child’s life. You are the first example, influence, teacher, provider and sense of home a child will know. So today we pray that our spouses provide a godly example of unconditional love, constantly pointing their family to Christ. Pray for wisdom in this and steadfastness, pray for clear communication, compassion and a heart to pray for your younglings. Some of you do not have children of your own, this is not the path God has lead you to but you do have children in your life. Pray that God would provide you the openings to be that godly influence in the lives of those children.

Todays scriptures:
Proverbs 14:26 In the fear of the LORD one has strong confidence, and his children will have a refuge.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9 these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

 

Day 7: Praying for our parental partnership, for Unity
Today lets turn our attention to the role that you play with your spouse as parents. Pray for unity as you raise your children. That you would be on the same page in making decisions and setting priorities for your family. If there are areas in which you are not in agreement, pray that God would bring you to a joint consensus of what His will is moving forward. Unity as a couple is important in parenting as well as in married life in general.


Scriptures for today:
Mark 3:25 If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
Philippians 2:1-2 Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any ]affection and compassion,make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.

Day 8: Pray for Their Fears
Fears, we all have them. As adults we don’t talk about them much. I’m not referring to the fear of heights or spiders, although I totally get the spider thing. I’m talking about the things that will leave an icy ball in the pit of your stomach and steal your courage for living. The “what ifs”. What if something happens to my wife/husband? What if something happens to my children? What if there is an accident or a disaster? What if I lose my job? What if I’m not a good parent? What if . . . .you fill in the blank, there are dozens. Today we pray that our partners take these types of fear captive, that they claim the truth of Hebrews 13:6 The Lord is my helper, I will not fear What man can do to me. Pray that he/she recognizes God’s sovereignty over all and trusts in that. Request that instead our partners be filled with courage, confidence and peace.


Todays Scriptures:
Psalms 34:4 I sought the Lord, and He answered me, and delivered me from all my fears.
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Day 9: Praying for Financial Discernment
Finances . .a source of huge marital stress . . . oh who are we kidding, finances are a huge source stress for everyone. Pray that finances don’t become a source of discord in your home. Pray that your spouse approaches money with gratitude and confidence that God provides. Ask that we honour God with our resources, that we are given wisdom in how we use them. That God would help us maintain a balance, that we wouldn’t be overly frivolously but also not miserly. Pray we would claim the promises of provision and not be anxious about money, that we learn how to handle out funds more efficiently. That we would store up our treasure in heaven not focusing on what is fleeting here.


Scriptures for today:
Luke 12:29-31 And do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things. But seek the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added to you.
Matthew 6:21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Proverbs 28:27 He who gives to the poor will not lack, But he who hides his eyes will have many curses.

 

Day 10: Prayers for the Ability to Forgive
Forgiveness is hard. It’s easy to say ‘I forgive you but it is difficult for the mind and heart to actually do it. In our relationship with our partners there are many opportunities to practice forgiveness. Pray that your spouse would be quick to forgive not holding onto wrongs or hurts allowing them to turn to bitterness. Request that God would make known areas in his/her life where holding onto the offence is stealing their joy. Perhaps it’s a family member, a work mate, a former friend or worse yet someone from the church, pray that God would help them to let go and allow the freedom that comes from practicing forgiveness to reign in their lives. While we are thinking about this for our loved ones it’s a good time for each of us to ask the same for ourselves, that God would open our eyes to the things we need to forgive and move in our hearts to do so.


Scriptures to think on today:
Colossians 3:12-13 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

 

Day 11: Strong Friendships
Today we pray that our husbands/wives choose their friends wisely. That God will grow their friendships with other men (or other women). Pray that our partners closest friends are ones who love the Lord and will draw each other closer to God and not away from God. That they would keep each other accountable and lift one another up in prayer. Ask that God would provide friendships that are a two way street, where if there is a need in each others lives neither will hesitate to help. Ask that God will use your spouse to draw all of his friends to Christ.


Scriptures for today:
Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.
Hebrews 10:24-25 and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.

Day 12: Praying for Couple Friendships
Following on the heels of yesterday today we pray for “couple” friends. We all know how hard it is to find a good couple friend, where all four people enjoy spending time with each other. Yet this is vitally important, we have seen too many couple who do not have friends in common. They begin to lead separate lives with him doing things with his friends and she with hers. While this is fine and indeed healthy sometimes, it is critical to have shared experiences and to be building your lives together. Having some couples that you spend time with strengthens your marriage. Pray that God would provide these types of friends for you. If you already have them, take today to pray for their marriages. Ask that God would use you to encourage each other and to keep each other accountable. Ask God that there would be a level of comfort among you that allows you to discuss things of the Lord together and to lift one another up.

Todays Scriptures:
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10 Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. (vs12b) A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. ( I know this is often used at weddings about spouses but it also speaks to the strength and importance of solid friends.)
Philippians 2:1-2 Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.

Day 13: Praying for our Partners Spouse
Yes, you read that correctly. Today we pray for your loved ones spouse. We pray for you. Pray that God would grow us and transform us into who he wants us to be. Ask that God would work in you to help you be a better partner, helper, best friend. That God would remove any bitterness or selfishness we may be holding onto. Pray that we learn to communicate clearly. Request that God would help you develop the mindset and attitudes that will profit our marriage and make our commitment and love for each other to deepen. That each day we would recommit ourselves to our husbands/wives valuing each other more than ourselves. You know where your needs lie as a partner, make your requests known to God.

Scripture for today:
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favour from the Lord.
Proverbs 31:10-12 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

Day 14: Pray For Discernment
Discernment, it’s not a word we use often. It basically means the ability to judge well, to see through to the heart of things. An important skill, we should pray for our loved ones to have discernment in all areas of their life. Discernment and understanding when they are reading and studying the scriptures. Discernment for the future and God’s will when life decisions need to be made. To see through to the truth of a situation, when the truth is being obscured. (Our poor old world is bathed in that these days.) That our partners would be able to see the truth and not buy the lie. That they would grow in wisdom from the Lord.

Today’s Scriptures:
1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 But examine everything carefully; hold fast to that which is good; abstain from every form of evil.
Proverbs 3:13 “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding,”
James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”

Day 15: Pray About Their Reputation
Our reputation is how we are viewed by others. A good reputation is a valuable thing, it’s not something that we should take for granted. Unfortunately it is also a fragile thing that can be ruined quickly by so many different sources. We should pray that God would protect our spouses name and that our spouse would live worthy of a favourable reputation. Ask that our loved one would not be put to shame but that the light of Christ would be evident in all he/she says and does.

Scriptures to think on:
Proverbs 22:11 A good name is to be more desired than great wealth, Favour is better than silver and gold.
Philippians 4:5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near.
Proverbs 20:11 It is by his deeds that a lad (child) distinguishes himself If his conduct is pure and right.

Day 16: Prayers For Affection
Affection is not a trivial thing in a marriage. Human touch is important for all humans and inside a marriage relationship is no different. Being affectionate builds confidence and makes our spouses feel valued. It is also important for children to see their parents caring for and unafraid to show that through physical touch. Occasionally one partner doesn’t realize how important affection is to the other. Pray that we be aware and responsive to our spouses needs, that we wouldn’t appear uninterested or cold. Pray that God would open your eyes to ways you can show love and affection to each other.
Scriptures for Today:
1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
1 John 3:18 My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.

Day 17: Their Talk
If you are like me when you saw ‘their talk’ you immediately thought of language. It’s true that is an issue for the majority of people (even if it is just in private), one I struggle with myself. But taming our tongue encompasses so much more. It includes negativity, mean spiritedness, constant complaining, judgements, oh this list could go on and on. We have all looked back at something we said during the day and desperately wished we could take it back and change it. How many times have I wished I could reswallow what I just said immediately, especially after I see it’s effect on a persons face. The scripture has a whole heaping pile to say about our tongue and the need to control it. For today we pray for our partners and their tongues. We ask that God would help them gain control over their speech and guard the words that pass through their lips. That they would use their words to build up, not tear down, that deceit would be far from them, that negativity would not pour forth and that any habits of using crude or foolish language would be conquered. Ask instead that the words that come from your spouses mouth (and your own) would show wisdom and be an example of the love of Christ. That our conversations would be uplifting, filled with truth (in kindness not harshness) and peace.

Todays Scriptures:
Psalms 19:14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my rock and my Redeemer.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.
Matthew 15:18 But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man.

Day 18: Emotions
Emotions, we all have them, occasionally they lead us a merry chase. If you stop to think about it, the range of emotions humans are capable of is staggering. Some are wonderful and some are shattering. Problems arise when we allow our feeling to have too much sway over our actions or state of mind. So today we pray for emotional health for our partners. Is there one area that they struggle to control? Are they angry, sorrowful, jealous, defeated or despondent? Do they struggle with allowing love or joy to have a place in their lives? Do they allow others to manipulate their emotions making them easily lead? We pray that God would grant them balance and rule over their feelings. That they would not be tossed about but find themselves centred in Christ, that their joy may be full and peace would flood their lives. After all God created us with emotions to bring enjoyment to our lives, not to control our lives while running us to the ground in exhaustion.

Scriptures to think on today:
Psalms 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Ecclesiastes 3:4 A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away.

Day:19 That our partner would be a person of prayer
For the past 18 days we have been praying for our partners so I don’t think we need to talk about the importance of prayer, we’ve got that. What I am hoping that you are discovering, what I had discovered was that my own life changed as I prayed for my husband. When we seek God not only are we affecting those we pray for, we are drawing nearer to God ourselves. Our love for God as well as for the person we are praying for deepens. This is a wonderful thing. Not only do I wish my partner to be actively seeking God’s will in all he/she does, I desire to see their love grow for God. I have an eagerness to see my spouse pursue God and spend time in His word and in prayer.

Todays Scriptures:
James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:3-4,9 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always offering prayer with joy in my every prayer for you all, in view of your participation in the gospel from the first day until now. ………. For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus. And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in real knowledge and all discernment,

Day:20 Self Image/ Self Esteem
If there is anything we receive a deluge of, it’s discussion concerning self esteem. Everyone has advice, programs, articles and ways for us to build our self image. Far too often we allow how we see ourselves to be dependant on how we think others see us. Let’s be honest, we spend too much time thinking about ourselves so it would be good if we could see ourselves clearly as God sees us through the lens of Christ’s blood. We desire our husbands/wives to have a healthy self image so how can we make this request know to God? We can ask that their greatest self worth would not stem from what they have, wear or do, but how God sees them and who they are in Christ. That the voices that destroy self esteem would be quieted and he/she would be released from self-doubt. Instead he/she would be freed to be who God has declared, a redeemed child of the king. Claim todays scriptures and pray them over/for your spouse.

Todays Scriptures:
Romans 12:3 For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Psalms 139:13-14 For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.
Luke 12:7 Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear; you are more valuable than many sparrows.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.

Day 21: : Integrity
Who we are when no one is watching, your own personal level of moral accountability, convictions that you will not compromise even if it costs you, integrity. Pray that our partners be men and women of strong integrity. That they stand by their word and beliefs no matter the consequence. Ask the Lord that their testimony be genuine and sincere. That in all their dealings they would be upright and honest. Pray that our spouses would be honest with themselves, readily admitting when they make mistakes or need to change an opinion. I know it sounds old fashioned but I pray my husband would be a man of honour. I also ask that he acknowledges that his strength of character is rooted in God and he would continue to find favour in the eyes of the Lord.

Scriptures for today:
Psalms 25:21 Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, for I wait for You.
Hebrews 13:18 Pray for us, for we are sure that we have a good conscience, desiring to conduct ourselves honourably in all things.
2 Corinthians 8:21 for we have regard for what is honourable, not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of men.

Day 22: Spirit of Gratitude
Today we look at the need for a spirit of gratitude and the ability to acknowledge the blessing in our lives as a gift from God. We pray that God would protect our partners from a feeling of entitlement. We ask that God would help us to learn to be grateful no matter the circumstances of our lives. That they would have the ability to see the blessing in their lives and would not live in discontent or bitterness.
Scriptures to think on:
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Psalms 95:2 Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving, Let us shout joyfully to Him with psalms.
And as an add on look up Psalms 136: 1-9

Day 23: Prayers for Rest and Refreshment
Looking around our society today I am constantly struck by the need for rest. I believe that the all prevailing ‘busyness’ is one of the main causes for the growth of anxiety in our society. People are running ragged and sadly they seem to be losing their ability to stop and be refreshed. In truth we don’t have to look very far to see this because our own families are not exempt from this problem. Today we ask for refreshment for our spouses, that they would awake each day rested. That God would grant them the ability to unplug, to turn off all outside distractions. That they would spend time with God and go forward refreshed and better equipped to face the stresses of the day. I pray that instead of being emptied by the constant call of activity, my spouse is refilled by the peace that resting in Christ brings.
Todays Scriptures:
Matthew 11:28 Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.
Jeremiah 31:25 For I satisfy the weary ones and [a]refresh everyone who languishes.
Psalms 23: 1-3 The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters.  He restores my soul; He guides me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake.

Day 24: Time management/ balance
If I am going to be honest this is one I am sure my husband would pray for me as my time management skills are seriously lacking. Between work, family, friends and church it is all too easy to become overextended. I am sure you are beginning to notice that many of the things we are praying for our partners are spilling over into each other. Yesterday we prayed about rest and refreshment, today we pray that God would help us develop balance that in turn will lead to rest and refreshment. If you look back at the scriptures for emotions you will see one from Ecclesiastes 3 which speaks of finding balance in our lives. Ask that God would help our partners to set realistic and God directed priorities, and then to stick to them. Give our partners strength to say no when they need to and ability to resist the pressure to take on too much.
Scriptures For Today:
Colossians 3: 16-17 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Matthew 6:33 But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Day 25: Your Sex Life
I don’t want this to be awkward for anyone but the truth is sex is an important part of a marriage relationship. After all God designed sex and it is an amazing gift! Personally I think that it is because it is such an wonderful gift that the enemy tries to co-opt it. This all the more reason to protect it. Pray today that there would be open and honest communication between you and your partner. Ask that God would heal any baggage that either of you are carrying into the marriage bed from your pasts. Request that God would fill your hearts with desire for only the other. Pray that any negative body images would be replaced with confidence as you each to seek to respond to the others needs. Ask that God would change your attitudes about sex if need be, that neither of your would view it as an obligation but an exciting gift for you to share, with pleasure. Request for God to help us not to use sex as a weapon or tool to manipulate but as a way to create intimacy and deepen our love for each other.

Scriptures to think on today:
Proverbs 5: 18-19 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.
As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.
1 Timothy 4:4-5 For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude; 5 for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.
1 Corinthians 7: 2-5 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and [b]come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Day 26: Marriage Vows
Fidelity, you don’t hear that word used very often anymore. Fidelity, a strict observance of promises made, of faithfulness in a relationship. In a world where divorce is the norm we pray to be faithful to our marriage vows. To begin we ask that God would keep thoughts of divorce far from our minds. If there are issues in the marriage we pray for the strength and wisdom to confront and deal with them together. One of things I pray for stems out of watching too many couples around us split. I pray that we would grow together, that we would build our life together not separately. Ask God that each of you would always have your needs met by the other, this includes emotional, sexual, social, intellectual and the need for intimacy. Ask that God would keep selfishness far from you and teach you how to put the other first, that your love for each other would mature and flourish.

Todays Scriptures:
Proverbs 20:25 It is a trap to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider one’s vows.
Proverbs 20: 6-7 Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? The righteous lead blameless lives blessed are their children after them.
Ephesians 5: 20-33 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Day 27: Pray about the struggles of temptation
Temptations big and small is there anything more common in all of mankind? We all face the slippery slope of compromise each day and it doesn’t take much to lose our footing. It’s important for us to pray for each other that we be equipped to stand firm. I pray that my partner recognizes the draw of temptation for what it is and that falling to it is not inevitable. As Christ stood firm under the allure so can we. I ask that my partner be grounded in the word of God. When we pray the Lords prayer we pray “lead us not into temptation” so I ask that God would make my partner wise in not placing her/himself in situations where struggle may overwhelm him/her. No matter the nature of the snare, whether it be sexual, greed, gossip, gluttony, mental (worry), pride or any other thing, I request my spouse be prepared and committed to hold to the word of the Lord. That they would apply the word of God in practice and in prayer.  That they would stand solid.
Scriptures for today:
Mark 14:38 Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

Day 28: Praying Protection from A Prideful Spirit
This is a counter cultural idea today, that we would pray to be kept from a proud spirit. Most messages today encourage us to embrace pride, pride in who we are, what we’ve done, what we know . . . I’m sure you can fill in the blanks. While a healthy self esteem is a good thing, pride can be a very negative thing. Pride can separate you from God and others. A prideful spirit can make you arrogant, self-righteous and unteachable. Today we pray that our partners walk in humility, not thinking more highly of themselves than they should. We pray they remain approachable and teachable, understanding that there is always more to learn and that none is better than the other. Ask that God would help our partners recognize how quickly pride can get a handhold in our attitudes and help them guard against it.

Todays Scriptures
Proverbs 16:18-19 Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling.
It is better to be humble in spirit with the lowly Than to divide the spoil with the proud.
Romans 12:3 For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Philippians 2:3-4 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

Day 29: Stress
It’s inevitable, sooner or later everyone goes through a period of stress in their lives. When this hits our spouses the best and sometimes only thing we can do is pray. Ask that their focus would be fixed on God not on the circumstances. Pray that our partners physical needs are met, so that the pressure does not feel doubled due to lack of sleep or persistent heartburn etc. Ask for your spoken words to be encouraging ones. Request that your loved one be reminded that all things are under God’s dominion and they would rest in the knowledge that God cares for them.

Scriptures:
Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
1 Peter 5:6-7 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.
Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for goodto those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Day 30: Encouragement
Today we pray for encouragement for our loved ones, that they receive it and give it. Ask that the Lord would open their eyes and their ears that they would see and hear encouragement when it is offered to them. Guard their hearts against discouragement and dismay no matter the circumstances in their lives. That as they seek Your presence and read Your word their hearts would be strengthened. Help our spouses to freely give encouragement to others. That they would always use their words to build others up rather than tear them down. Request that our partners and ourselves would be people who speak life to those we come in contact with filling them with hope and joy that comes from Christ.
Scriptures to reflect on today:
Proverbs 25:11 Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances.
Isaiah 41:10 ‘Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’
1 Thessalonians 5: 9-11 For God has not destined us for wrath, but for obtaining salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us, so that whether we are awake or asleep, we will live together with Him. Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.

Day 31: Praying For Faith and A Close Relationship With God
Here we at the end of our 31 days and we finish where we began. The most important thing we can pray for our loved one is that they have a close, personal relationship with the Lord. Pray that this relationship will hold the top priority in their lives. Everyone has seasons of doubt when our faith feels weak. If we see our spouses struggling, this is the time we can step in the gap and pray that God will make His presence felt and His peace known. Ask that their faith would be strengthened and the surety of who they are in Christ would amaze them. Request that their certainty in their Saviour and their knowledge of the word of God would be the foundation on which their lives are lived. Pray the scriptures over your spouse, you can never go wrong with that.
Scriptures to claim:
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.
Ephesians 1:15-17 For this reason I too, having heard of the faith in the Lord Jesus which exists among you and your love for all the saints, do not cease giving thanks for you, while making mention of you in my prayers; that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him.

 

Thank you so very much for going on this worthwhile challenge with me. My intent in sharing this with you was to broaden the way we pray for our partners, to bring every aspect of their lives to God for strengthening. I suspect that you like myself have noticed a deepening of your own faith over the past 30ish days. Focusing on praying for my spouse also makes me less self absorbed, it has been teaching me how to put him first. I see the benefits in our marriage, while we are a far cry from a perfect example we are becoming a closer knit unit. I am so grateful to God for my husband and the bond we share. I have no doubt that God moves through the power of prayer, as I have seen Him move in our lives. I have assurance He will move in yours as well. 1John 5:14 says, “This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.” and James 5:16 tells us, “Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” As we continue to pray for our spouses and for our marriages we will see God work in our lives. I find that tremendously exciting and encouraging! I will leave you with a familiar benediction. It’s one that brings joy, confidence and hope to me every time I read it and claim it, may it do the same for you my friends.

Ephesians 3:14-21 For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.

 

Bonus Day 32 Taken from Spousal Support Prayer:

HIS MIND: I pray that God will strengthen and guard his mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” I ask that God would guard him against feelings of depression, defeat, hopelessness, anxiety, etc. I request that he not listen to the voices we all have whispering negative thoughts of “I can’t”, “nothing changes”, “it’s too much”. That God will empower him to be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might (Ephesians 6:10). That he would take those defeatist thoughts and feelings captive and toss them to the curb and instead focusing on positive thoughts. Basically I pray he embraces, Philippians 4:6-8.

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”